We began the adoption process once Colby, my husband, got home from his tour serving in Iraq. I would LOVED to have started the process earlier, but we were both waiting on God's timing- and Him to tell BOTH of us at the same time when we were supposed to start the process. In October 2010 we researched agencies and found one that we would just "apply" to and see how it goes. We were a little apprehensive about finding an agency that no one had ever really heard of, but we left it all in God's hands. We applied to Lifetime Adoptions. We checked their license and credibility and felt that they were the "real deal." After waiting 2 weeks to hear from them, we got the news that we were ACCEPTED!! Greatest news EVER! See, this agency only accepts 17% of their applicants- and we were one of them!! WOOHOO!!
We went through all of the background checks, FBI fingerprinting, home-studies, the whole bit! We were done with everything we had to do on our end by the end of December 2010. Since we were going through an open adoption (pick your mouth up off of the floor) we would just wait on the birthmother to choose our family. Yes, this means that we would keep in contact with the birthmother of our children and that we would keep her up to date on her children that we would adopt. Many people think this is crazy, but we felt it would be the best thing for the birthmother's sake. She would like contact, simply to know that her children are in safe hands and to reassure her of her decision in selected our family.
I am not a patient person when it come to the "hurry up and wait" things. If I have to hurry up, then I want to see something come of that hurrying- THEN! lol. So, you can imagine that throughout this waiting, I am struggling with myself and with God. The waiting just about did me in... but I knew that God had a plan and I was waiting on the perfect child that God had for us. That is what I kept telling myself to make it through the process.
In March 2011, Colby and I bought a new house and moved! We were sooo proud!!! We knew that buying a new house would mean to change our address with the adoption agency, but we never thought it would mean that we would have to pay for it. lol. (That is another topic for another blog!) We had to have a homestudy re-done so that our new house could be inspected and for the agency to see that we would still be able to have room for a child and such...
The new homestudy was complete the week before I got the EMAIL...
The Email-
Periodically, our agency sends out "desperate emails" for children who may have special circumstances and need an immediate family. We have gotten emails with these types of children frequently and I usually just read them and dreamed of us one day adopting our forever child.
This email was different. The description seemed interesting and I thought how neat it would be to send this special birthmother our profile! I contacted the agency (before talking to Colby. : / ) and asked a few questions and told them we would like to send out our profile... THEN I CALLED MY HUSBAND. oops. He was excited and didn't think much of it from there... I prayed. Continuously. Day in and day out! I emailed the agency asking about the children. I emailed the agency asking about the birthmother. I pretty much bugged them to death wondering how the family was doing. Out of concern, not necessarily thinking that we would be selected by the birthmother and adopt the children.
This was all the week before Easter.
We told our families about the children and asked them to pray for them and for us- that God would reign in and open doors and close doors. Of course our families were thrilled!! They got us all excited and then we REALLY couldn't stop thinking about the children. We had gone home for Easter weekend, and on the way home- Colby and I talked NON-STOP about the children!! What we would do with them, how we would discipline, how we would work through difficulties, what they would call us, what they would call our families... EVERYTHING!!
2 hours from being home, the phone rang- the phone call that would change our lives!! On the other end of the phone was the agency telling us that the birthmother had chosen our family and would like to talk to us over the phone- THAT NIGHT!! AHH! We were 2 hours away and didn't have much service on our cell phones so we raced home- LITERALLY! I think at one point Colby looked down and we were going at least 95. hahaha. We needed to get home ASAP to speak with the birthmother!!
We got home, called the birthmother- she asked us to call her the next night... We were heartbroken! We just knew that we were going to be able to talk to her and ask all of our questions and hear her story... We had to wait another day. My excitement left and I was genuinely disappointed.
The next night couldn't come fast enough!! We spoke with the birthmother and my excitement was back!! SHE LOVED US! WOW! I was so excited to know that there was a birthmother out there to "choose" us... Our conversation ended with her saying "I don't have to look any further for a family for my boys. I never knew that there were people out there like you guys who would take on 3 boys at the same time. I will call the agency tomorrow and tell them that I have chosen you."
Tears flow. And tears flow!
Colby and I are crying. More me... lol. He asked me at one point if I was having a good cry or a bad cry. haha. Don't you just love men!
We talked with the agency the next day and found out that we would be traveling to FL to pick up our boys the following week!! LESS THAN 5 DAYS!!!!
We got everything ready that we could possibly think of in 5 days that we needed to get and to do- still leaving things out of course. And hit the road to FL!
Once we got there, we met the birthmother and boys (along with our attorney and such) at the birthmother's house. Our first time seeing the boys- AMAZING! No words could describe what we were feeling. In the house that our precious children were living in- there was NOTHING! When I say nothing I mean that there were air mattresses on the floor and that was it! My babies were barely surviving. No food, No toys, No clothes. NOTHING! It was not a good situation and my heart was broken for our boys.
They had never been in a car seat, so needless to say after our first 5 minutes in the car with them, we invested in DVD players! Yes, I am the mother who said my children would NEVER have to have a DVD player to ride in a car... Ate those words!!
We spent the first week in FL with the boys- in our care. We waited on the clearances that we needed to be able to leave the state of FL with them and enter the state of NC. After the first week, we drove to MS from FL. We turned a 7 hour trip into a 12 hour trip- and that was with DVD players.... Can you imagine?
We went to MS to visit family and friends and we SO very blessed!!! WOW. I was left speechless by the generosity of our church family and friends!! We had to rent a Uhaul to go from MS to NC because of all of the clothes and toys that God had blessed us with!! Amazing huh?
Now, we are home, in NC with our 3 boys and life is amazing! Yes, there are times in the day that I want to pull my hair out, but I love it!!! Being a mother is wonderful! Even with the screaming and pitching of fits. I still love it!! Yes, we get looks walking through Wal Mart because we are a biracial family. Do we care? Of course I hate the looks and wish that people would mind their own business and stop worrying about us and over thinking our situation. But then again, I sort of like it! I walk through Wal Mart with my head held high saying in my head- "I am a Mommy and I love my children!" :)
As for now, I have been on this computer WAY too long and need to get off to take care of my little trio! Thank you to everyone who has supported us through prayers, gifts, and cards! We appreciate it, but don't let it stop! Continue to pray for us! We WILL need it!
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